Attachment Style Quiz for Men
See how you tend to act when a relationship feels close, distant or uncertain — and what that pattern means for getting through this breakup.
24 questions about you, then 12 about her and 6 about what's happened since; about 5 minutes, with the full result free and no email needed.
This assessment is a self-reflection tool informed by attachment research. It is not a medical or psychological diagnosis, it is not therapy, and it is not a substitute for professional support. Only a qualified professional who knows your full situation can assess your mental health. If you are struggling, please consider talking to a licensed professional.
The four patterns it measures
Your result is one of four patterns, from where your two scores land. Each has its own page if you want to read more first.
Anxious (preoccupied)
You want closeness, and distance sets off an alarm.
Read about the anxious patternAvoidant (dismissive)
You value independence, and closeness can feel like pressure.
Read about the avoidant patternFearful-avoidant (disorganized)
You want closeness and brace against it, often at once.
Read about the fearful-avoidant pattern
How the quiz works
It scores two things separately: attachment anxiety — how strongly you react to distance — and attachment avoidance — how uncomfortable you get with closeness. Your pattern comes from where the two scores land.
Every question about you describes something you did in a specific situation in your most recent relationship, answered on a five-point scale from "Never like me" to "Almost always like me". The questions about her give a read of the pattern you experienced from her — they can't label her, and they don't change your own scores.
The score is calculated in your browser. The same answers always give the same result, and there's nothing to unlock.
Who it's for
Men after a breakup, or in a relationship pattern they want to understand — the checking, the chasing, the going quiet.
Who it isn't for
It's a self-reflection tool, not a medical or psychological assessment, and it isn't the right help in a crisis.
If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (US Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 24/7) or call your local emergency number. You deserve support from a person, right now — not a website.
Questions about the quiz
- Do I need to give my email to see my result?
- No. The full result shows on the page as soon as you finish. Emailing yourself a copy is optional and separate.
- Why does it ask about her?
- 12 questions ask what she did in the same relationship. They give a read of the pattern you experienced from her, which helps make sense of what you lived through. Only she could describe her own pattern, so it's never a label for her, and it doesn't change your scores.
- Are my answers sent anywhere?
- No. Your answers and result are saved only in this browser on this device. A shared result link carries your two scores and the quiz version, never your answers.
- How long does it take?
- About 5 minutes: 24 questions about you, 12 about her, 6 about what's happened since the breakup, and 2 optional questions about where you are now. One per screen, and you can go back at any time.
Your answers stay in this browser
No account and no email needed. Your answers and result are saved only on this device, and nothing about them is sent to us. Delete them any time with “Clear my data”.
HeartFixed provides educational tools and information about attachment patterns and breakup recovery. It does not provide therapy, counselling, medical, or mental-health advice, and using this site does not create a therapist, counsellor, or clinician relationship of any kind.